but families are a good deal sloppier than that, a mishmash of competing needs and moods and clashing emotions, better understood by the people in the thick of them than by anyone standing outside.
不过家庭远比这要「松散」得多,它是「竞争需求」、情绪、沖突感情在一起的混合物。”局内人「总是要比」局外人“了解得更多。