When we focus more on the consequences of not forgiving ourselves, we shift the focus to ourselves and how we can move beyond the past hurt and blame.
当我们更多地关注于不宽恕自己时,我们就把注意力转移到自己身上,这样我们怎么能够跨越过去的伤害和过失呢?
I guess im not forgiving enough, this is something I find increasingly difficult, towards my closest friends, even my family at times.
我想我不还不够仁慈,这是一件我发现越来越难的事,对我最亲密的朋友,甚至有时对我的家人。
You're not forgiving them for their sake.
你宽恕他们并非为他们着想,而是为了自己。
I will remember that my bank is not forgiving if I forget to balance my checkbook because I was too busy on the Web.
我将记得银行不会再给我任何宽限,如果我因为沉迷于网络而忘了去结账。
The more we concentrate our emotional energy on carrying a grudge and not forgiving someone, the more likely we are to become anxious, depressed and feel negatively about the general situation.
我们越是怨恨,越是不原谅某人,我们就会变得越紧张、沮丧,并且对情况越来越持消极态度。
If this is not the outcome of a particular circumstance even when forgiveness is intended then chances are you are not forgiving but living your karma instead.
如果即便意愿了原谅,这仍不是某个特别处境的结果,那么很有可能是你没有原谅而只是相反活在自己的业力当中。