think of yourself as an empowered person making wise choices based on your values and priorities - instead of a self-pitying victim who views life in terms of what she can「t have.

把自己想象成一个有能力按照自己的价值观和偏好做出明智选择的人，而不是把自己看成不能左右生活的自怨自艾的可怜虫。

too bad that an editor did not excise the self-pitying self-portrait that unconvincingly brings to an end the strange undercurrents of this unusual family memoir.

作为一个编辑，他勾勒出了自怜的自画像，而结束这本超乎寻常的家庭回忆录的奇怪潜流之时，又无法让人信服，真是太糟糕了。

having been constructed in a self-pitying rage, there are gaps between the logs, untrue angles, a doorframe angrily nailed to the outside.

因为是在过度自怜的心境下建造的，所以原木之间有缝隙，角度也不合标準，门框被生气地钉在外面。

narcissists may deny their mistakes or flagellate themselves into a froth of self-pitying hatred, but they never laugh at their imperfections.

自恋者也许会否定他们的错误或者鞭笞自己，让自己淹没在一堆令人自我怜悯的仇恨泡沫中，可是绝对不会嘲笑自己的不完善。

behind the words, at once self-pitying and vainglorious, the merits of the case were overwhelming.

在那些既是顾影自怜而又自命不凡的字眼后面，事情本身的是非曲直是无可争辩的。

then, with due respect for the traditional rituals of the modern break-up, i email my best friend a self-pitying rant, and look up his girlfriend on facebook.

然后，在尊重现代分手的传统仪式的情况下，我给我最好的朋友发了一封自怜式地痛骂的电子邮件，并在「脸谱」上查阅了他女朋友的资料。

this still seems a rather self-pitying analysis, particularly when he goes on to describe how he had seen detainees being tortured.

这似乎还是一种相当自怜的分析，尤其是当他接着讲述他所目睹的犯人遭受拷问的情况时。

there」s something reassuring in its self-pitying simplicity—as if the three-word absence explains who i am and wins me sympathy-so i carry it with me, like a label on my back.

这句有点自怜的简单话语听起来颇有些自我安慰的味道——仿佛这三个字的缺失就为我为什么成为现在的我提供了借口，还为我赢得了同情——于是，我总是把这句话挂在嘴边，就像把它贴在背上当标签一样。

the public uproar intensified when he made a self-pitying television statement and reached its peak whentheinquestwas held in camera.

当他做出自怜的电视陈述后，公众更加哗然，而当审查闭门进行时，公众的愤怒更是达到顶峰。

not to be too self-pitying (or self-aggrandising), but i hadn「t really cared about a woman outside my family since margie and i had hung up our phones in 1995.

虽然我不再怜悯自己，但是自从1995年与玛吉不再打电话以来，我从来没有这样关心过任何一个家庭以外的女人。

it can highlight the resentful and self-pitying side of our character, while sapping the will to make changes that are clearly within the country」s reach.

这种观点充分显示了我们性格中仇恨和自怜的一面，当需要做出一些明显能做到的变 化时，我们的行动力也大为削弱。

after some self-pitying resentment, there are signs that they understand they need to win it back.

在一番自怜自艾之后，他们看来已明白，必须重新赢回社会的尊重。